Code of Conduct

Our commitment

Here4U Community is committed to being a welcoming, safe and kind space for everyone, regardless of race, ethnicity, nationality, faith, age, gender identity or expression, sexual orientation, neurotype, disability, body type, socioeconomic background, relationship status, or life experience.

Whether you're at your first event or your hundredth, you deserve to feel seen, heard and respected. This Code of Conduct exists to make sure that happens.

The six things we ask of everyone

1. Lead with kindness

Be warm. Be welcoming. Assume the best of people. A small kindness, making space in a conversation, remembering someone's name, offering a seat, is what our community is built on.

2. Respect boundaries

Everyone has their own comfort level. Don't pressure people into hugs, photos, sharing personal information, drinking, or attending after-parties. "No" is a complete sentence, and always okay.

3. Listen before you speak

Our events are for connection, which means real listening. Don't interrupt, dismiss, or talk over others, especially those with quieter voices. Make space for everyone.

4. No harassment, no bigotry, no exceptions

Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, antisemitism, Islamophobia, xenophobia, fatphobia, ageism, these have no home at Here4U. Neither does sexual harassment, bullying, intimidation, or "jokes" that demean people for who they are. This applies at events, in our messages, and online.

5. Consent in everything

Ask before touching, hugging, taking photos, tagging people online, or sharing stories that aren't yours to share. Consent is ongoing, someone saying yes once doesn't mean yes always.

6. Look out for each other

If you spot someone who's new, standing on the edge of the group, or just hasn't had a chance to chat yet, say hello. If you see behaviour that doesn't belong here, gently speak up or tell a host. We all share the job of keeping this community kind.

What we won't tolerate

• Harassment, intimidation, or threats in any form
• Discrimination based on any personal characteristic
• Unwanted physical contact, stalking, or repeated unwanted attention
• Sharing someone's private information without consent
• Photographing or recording anyone without their permission
• Arriving at events visibly intoxicated or using substances in unsafe ways
• Promoting political agendas, MLMs, or sales at our events
• Any behaviour that makes the community feel unsafe

Reporting something

If something happens that doesn't feel right, at an event, online, or in a private message, please tell us. You can:

• Speak to the host at the event (they'll be introduced at the start)
• Email us at here4ucommunity@gmail.com
• Use our Contact form, you can send anonymously

We take every report seriously. You won't be judged, dismissed, or made to feel small. We'll listen, protect your privacy, and take action.

What happens if someone breaks this code

We respond to every report on a case-by-case basis with care and fairness. Depending on what happened, action may include:

• A private conversation and reminder of our expectations
• A temporary break from community events
• A permanent ban from Here4U events and spaces
• Reporting to the police where the behaviour is a crime

A note on accessibility

We actively welcome people with disabilities, neurodivergent folks, and those who need adjustments to feel comfortable. If you need anything to make an event easier for you, step-free access, a quieter space, a companion to come with you, advance information about what to expect, please email us. We'll do our best to make it happen. See our Accessibility page for more.

A final word

None of us are perfect. We all have hard days, awkward moments, and lessons to keep learning. What matters is that we show up for each other with good intentions, and we're willing to make it right when we fall short. That's what community is.

Thank you for helping us build something kind.